A wrathful man stirs up strife, but he who is slow to anger allays contention.” Proverbs 15:23

When we think of the term “Conflict” it brings a kind of negative meaning. If its physical abuse than it should be uncompromisingly prohibited. But, if we mean struggles, different perspective or misunderstanding of each other than its normal in marriage. There is no such family that does not have conflicts. Jesus said, “the two will be one flesh” (Matt.19:5). If two different desires arise in a single body, two misunderstanding of the same situation or two different reactions to the same event than we call it a conflict. It is a crossing of two different viewpoints. In order for the treatment to be effective, it is necessary to know the cause of the disease and try to eliminate it. Likewise, in order to prevent or avoid conflicts it is necessary to know their causes.



Things I Wish I’d Known Before We Got Married” – By Gary Chapman

Chapter 5


Talks About questions that are found at the end of Chapter 5

What are your own thoughts on conflict?

How does it make you feel to understand that conflicts are inevitable?

Do you think of conflicts to be negative or positive? What about “as iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another” – Prov 27:17?

How will you communicate to your future spouse that you need to take time-out?

How did your parents solve conflicts? How will you solve them together?